Why Mindfulness

A mindfulness practice is one of the most beneficial things that someone could develop in their lives. In my own experience it has been an excellent foundation upon which I have been able to build many other skill related to self mastery. Introspection, combating anxiety and depression, and controlling volatile emotions such as anger and envy, to name a few. It is also good in and of itself. It brings more enjoyment to the little things in life. If you struggle to “smell the roses” along the way, a mindfulness practice will help with that too.

What is Mindfulness?

Mindfulness is the art of being fully present in the present moment. The ability to notice everything going on around and within you without passing judgment on it. I think many people associate mindfulness with sitting and meditating, and that is definitely one way to do it, and probably the method I would recommend for someone to start practicing, but the important thing about a mindfulness practice, and what makes it so powerful and useful, is that it can be done anywhere at anytime, no matter the situation.

For a deep dive into mindfulness as it relates to positive psychology, take a look at this in depth article by positivepsychology.com

How to Do It

If you have never practiced mindfulness, I suggest dedicating between 5 and 10 minutes to sit and practice every day until until you can make it a whole 10 minutes comfortably. In my own experience, I find that it is extremely easy to lose track of time. I recommend that you set a timer with a pleasant sound to let you know when your time is up. For your first few times, try this method.

• Sit comfortably with your eyes closed in a quiet room by yourself
• Breath in slowly and comfortably through your nose, and out through your mouth, lips slightly pursed
• Follow your breath as it enters your nose, feel it on the inside of nostrils, as it hits the back of your, as it travels down your into your lungs
• Feel your lungs expanding, and imagine your breath filling your with life
• Now follow your breath back out your mouth
• Imagine that your are expelling stagnant air that has been replaced with fresh life giving air
• Keep this up for 10 breaths or so
• Now start to expand your attention to your experiences
• How are you feeling? Then acknowledge those feeling, without judging them as good or bad
• Now pay attention to the parts of your body that are in contact with the ground and/or your chair, notice the weight distribution, how they feel, and try to release any tension in these areas
• Feel the air on your skin. Even in a still, quiet room, the air is always moving no matter how gently. Try to feel that movement.
• Start listening. First pay attention to sounds in the room, then outside the room, then outside the house and as far as you can hear. Once you’ve noticed as much sound as you can, try to listen to each of those sounds at the same time. Don’t try too hard though, you’re simply trying to expand your awareness and ground yourself in the present moment. If you get distracted or irritated, just go back to your breath, follow it in and out again.
• Eventually, try to hear everything, feel everything, and notice your feelings with equal attention. Even if you can just achieve that for a fraction of a second, then go back to your breath. The goal is to try to maintain that attention for as long as possible, but without undue stress. If its stressing you, or frustrating you, then just go back to your breath.

Remember that the act of practicing is the success. How far you get, and how long you can maintain your attention is all secondary.

The “Monkey Mind”

The biggest struggle that you are likely to encounter is taming the “monkey mind”. The monkey mind refers to an undisciplined mind whose thoughts run rampant and unchecked, causing distractions and making mindfulness difficult. This is where everyone starts, so don’t get discouraged if you just cannot calm down your mind. Just stop, smile, and try again later! Ideally, we could sit and focus only on what we are experiencing in the exact moment we exist in. Our minds, however, are easily distracted, and the modern world we live in is literally designed to keep us focused on something new every second.

Effort is the Enemy

So what happens when we try to simply exist in the present moment and not think about anything but our current experience? Our mind thinks about the past, worries about the future, tries to problem solve, or just daydreams. That is why, the fundamental rule for mindfulness meditation is to focus on our breath. If thoughts get overwhelming and a simple acknowledgment doesn’t calm them down, focus back on your breath. If it gets too frustrating, simply call it for the day and try again tomorrow! Effort is the enemy of meditation. Don’t force anything.

Casual Mindfulness Everyday

As you get better at your mindfulness practice, you will be able to do it while working, while having a conversation, driving to work or being stuck in traffic or anytime where you need to ground yourself and get control of your thoughts and emotions. For instance, something happens that makes you angry. Before you react, acknowledge the feeling and let it pass. Realize that you exist beyond your feelings, and that the action that caused your emotional reaction is already in the past, and the present moment is a whole new experience. Most of human experience is reactionary, but a mindfulness practice helps you master yourself and make deliberate choices, instead of simply being a slave to your gut reaction.

Go forth, and be present!